What Is Toxic Masculinity?

Probably you have heard about these two words "toxic" and "masculinity". Toxic is the word we hear daily which means something poisonous which dissolves something or somebody from the outer surface to the core. While masculinity is referring to the men.

                                                                        

We live in a male dominant society in which men think of themselves the strongest creatures of Allah and think of women a waste on this earth. Indeed Islam has given power and strength to a man to work and manage their house expenses but they use it beating up a woman. This is the cause of a lot of fights in the society specially the one we live in. It depends a lot on the man’s nature. Not all of them are like this but who are, have nothing to do but to degrade their wives and their daughters. Why don’t you go and say all these things to your mother and sisters. They think that they are always right even when they are wrong and when they are proven wrong, and don't have any answer they use their hands converting their rage into bruises and wounds on the women.

There are two scenarios in the society. One in which the woman is a working lady and other in which she is a house wife. The one in which the woman is a house wife every expense is on the man and so he just thinks that the woman is senseless and a waste just made to produce children and by children I mean boys (the male dominance) but why that woman is a house wife, why she didn’t study enough to get a job or studied but did not apply for a job? Again because of that man who said at the time of getting married that women are not made to work they are just made to do house chores and give birth to boys.  At that time she accepted his this condition just because of his parents in order to make them happy.

On the other hand suppose at the time of getting married he didn’t say that he wants a woman who just sits in the house wait for him and take care of his four times a day meal (of course he has to get stronger to beat that woman) and be a sex machine for him. So the woman continues her job then for how much time is he going to shut up about that. One day he’ll absolutely speak up about that and force her to lose her job. I don’t get these men if you want a woman who doesn’t go to a job then marry a woman who does not want to do the job why are you marrying the girls having passion about their career and then not allowing them to continue their studies and just destroying their career and passions.

                                                                                

Women always want their marriage to work, men are those who destroy the marriages. Such men are beasts and are toxic for our society dangerous to all of the women of the world. They think that they can’t be a man without being toxic but toxicity is not important for being masculine. Such men should be just exempted from this world. When a woman starts to compromise there is then a long list of things on which she has to compromise. Then for how much time she’s going to do compromise there would be a point in her life when she’ll just get tired of accepting everything and doing compromises. At that time she’ll speak up about that but at that time it would be too late to speak up. Speaking up would not make any difference the man will still remain dominant.

Only a woman can get out of this toxicity is by speaking up at the right time at the time when she is about to make the first compromise whether it is to quit her studies, quit her job, quit her longings and desires, or in short quit her life. But this always doesn’t work out because when she’s going to speak up about that then what’s next she will get out of her husband’s house and go to her father’s house, that father who forced her to get married to that dangerous man, that father who may also beat her mother and degrade her. What she will do at that time. So she has to be independent of her father and her husband. She should has her resources of money and food. When she’ll not depend on anybody and will only depend on herself she will survive alone in this world easily and no toxic man will try to harm her. But of course why is she going to speak up she has to take care of the name of her parents in the society.

                                                                                            

Not all the men are toxic like this some are still alive who respect the woman as she is the mother of his children and the love of his life. But such men are in a very minute quantity and I fear of the time when they’ll also be just vanished from the world. Most of these men are now becoming a target of toxic women. Yes there are not only toxic men but some women are also toxic and such toxic women just destroy the men which are not toxic they should get a man who is toxic like them. These toxic men are not only dangerous for women but also for other men of the society.

All the things and facts end on the word of “respect” if you are a man and you don’t respect  a woman then you are not more than just a piece of shit. And so is for a woman. Marriage is a very beautiful relationship in the world but due to toxicity it has now become the most fearful thing. Children just watch their father and mother fighting daily and set up their minds not to get married. All we have to do is to eradicate the toxicity from the environment or why don’t all these toxic men get disappeared from the world so that all can live in peace. But of course that is not going to happen then for how much time a woman is going to be punished for being a woman?