The Psychology of Fear

Put your fear in to action

Fear make simple things complicated.  We can do a simple task in just a few minutes but if we have fear to do it we can’t do it in our lifetime. Everybody has a fear of something, nobody is born with them  some fears are developed by the time, by different situations we face in our lives. I have seen a lot of people having different and strange type of fears. Let’s talk about some of them.

Fear of love

Being in love is probably the most wonderful feeling in this world but there are people who get scared of being in love. Being in love is not the same for them as it is for us. They are so used to being hated by the people that they fear to get into a situation where people truly love them. Life has shown them such a tragedy that they think of the world as a place where people hurt each other. Most people have a fear of intimacy. They get terrified when they get close to someone. 

Fear of love can be overcome by facing it. May be the last time you were in love wasn’t love or maybe you were in love with the wrong person. Not all the people are alike. There are people who can show you that being in love is still a wonderful feeling in the world.

Fear of losing people

Some people fear of loving someone because they fear of losing them. They fear that they may fall badly in love with them and may get so attached with them that when those people want to go away from them they may get hurt.

 People are not going to stay forever they are going to leave you one day no matter how hard you try. If you are truly in love with them you should let them go. Don’t try too much to make them stay for you. What you are going to have by having the fear to lose them is just ruin your time with them. Life is so uncertain maybe before you lose them, they lose you.

Fear of being alone

When we have fear of losing people we actually are scared of being alone. We see people destroying themselves in their loneliness so we are scared of that loneliness. Being alone is not going to eat you up. In fact you need some time alone after some body has gone from your life. Use that alone time in exploring your own self. You are not going to be actually alone because you will be with yourself. Make yourself better at that time. Work on yourself at that time.

Fear of pain

People are scared of getting hurt. When they are scared of being in love and of losing the people they love, they are actually scared of the fact that when those people will leave them they’ll get hurt. Getting hurt will always make you stronger. When something hurts you, you’ll never do that thing again. You choose wrong people, expect them to love you and live with you. When they don’t, you get hurt. But being in pain at that time makes you choose the right people next time.

 What if you again choose the wrong people, again love them and again get hurt. Nothing is going to happen. Make yourself resilient. Pain is not going to break you, it is only going to make you stronger.

Fear of doing something for the first time:

We all have fear of starting something new. We all have experiences of getting scared to go to the stage in front of all people for the first time. But once you have done it all the fear is gone.

 So you just need to think that you can do it and just do it. If you don’t do it right and people laugh at you, that’s totally OK because you are hundred times better, standing at a higher level stage than those who are standing at a lower level and laughing at you, they don’t even have courage to go to the stage and do that. People who know how to do that have already faced that laughing people situation in their lives. They would not be laughing at your time because they know how much it takes to do it perfectly.

Fear of criticism

We fear of doing something new because we are scared of being criticized by the people. We fear that people would disapprove of what we think. Don’t take criticism personally. People just know how to speak and don’t know how to do it. Some people criticize you just because they are resentful of what you have. They are born to be critical. But if there would be no critique there would be no success. Criticism makes you to think over your work again and you do it more properly than ever before.

Fear of failure

I think that fear of failure is the biggest fear we have. But it should be not. Nobody in this world has achieved what he has in the first attempt. There are a lot of people who have set the examples of success from countless times failure.

 Abraham Lincoln lost his business, lost his wife, got panic attacks and a nervous breakdown, got failed several times for electing as the president but he didn’t stop trying and was elected 16th president of United Sates of America.

Michael Jordan have missed thousands of shots in his career, he has lost a lot of games but failing again and again is why he succeed. He didn’t even have the natural skills to play the basketball. He also didn’t reach the minimum height but by his efforts and practice after getting failed again and again has made him a star today and today he is motivating others to get succeed.

Fear of future

Everybody fears of the unknown. Nobody knows what will happen in the next five minutes. Nobody knows whether he is going to wake up tomorrow or not. But why do we get terrified by the things we don’t even know. We don’t want our friends to give us spoilers of movies and TV shows just because we want to enjoy the suspense. We like a movie which has an unpredictable ending. Why don’t we enjoy the suspense of our lives? Because we are afraid of bad things that will happen in future.

 Thinking makes everything different. If we think that something bad is going to happen that’s absolutely going to happen. According to a research people who drive fast are less likely to get accidents then people who drive slow but think that they will get accident. We are afraid of future because of our own doubts.

We can overcome all these doubts of losing people, of getting lonely, being criticized, getting failed and happening bad things in the future by having FAITH and COURAGE in your own self. Once you have faced all these fears, you are no more getting afraid.

Fear of death

Death is an actual scary word. Some people are scared of their death while others are scared of the way in which they would die. But thinking of the death all the time will not make you live, you will die anyway, only you will spoil the life you have got. In fact thought of being mortal in this world makes you overcome many of your fears, like fear of losing someone! Because you are not going to live here without him forever.

Franklin Roosevelt has said: “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”.

 So don’t be afraid of anything, stand straight against the fears you have and comment below what kind of fears do you have. Don’t be afraid of commenting your fear;)